Blood, sweat, and cheers Issue #23

Venus readers spout off about sex during that time of the month

By Venus Zine Readers
Published: March 1st, 2005 | 4:35pm

In the spirit of blood-sport sisterhood, Venus readers spill all about their tangos with the 28-day cycle. — Jen Hazen

“I love sex! I love making love, fooling around, blow jobs, rim jobs, finger-banging, sloppy sex, but most of all I love spending hours between my girlfriend’s legs. I am head over heels in love with the female anatomy. I love the taste, the smell, the sweet perfection of it all. When I hear someone say they don't like to have sex when their girlfriend has her period, I am disgusted and disturbed. When I hear a girl say she doesn't like to have sex on her period because she's afraid of what her person would think of the mess and the smell, I feel sad. The public spends very little time making men feel bad about the unpleasant smell and mess of penises and semen. We spend so much time and money (douches, scented pads, etc.) shaming women and making them feel dirty for a natural part of life. If you are lucky enough to get between some hottie’s legs while she is bleeding, I say “enjoy.” Sex is better when you are wetter, and blood is a natural lubricant. Sex is supposed to be messy and primal, and no one should tell you differently.” — Rocco Kayiatos, San Francisco rapper, 25

“I dated this guy in college for a couple of months who was a real jerk. How much of a jerk? At times, he made comments about how much food I was eating and said that maybe I should “watch it.” Anyway, during a heavy make-out session one evening, clothes started flying off. When he put his hands down my pants and felt my tampon string, he replied, “Oh, I don’t do that. Nasty.” Humiliated, I stood up, took out my tampon, and threw it at him. Yes, I did, and that was the last of that asshole.” — anonymous, 31

“If I can paint with it I can have sex on it.” — Kelly, 22

“Put a towel down! I ain't about to wait a couple days just because we get a little messy. It's hot getting all covered in blood. Take a shower afterward and pretend you're in that movie Carrie.” — Jason, 30

“Every man’s words on sex and menstruation are laced with spurious tales of red moustaches, but mine is a story about the christening of a resurrected romance. Months after a broken engagement, my now-wife and I were led back to her brand-new bed and had at it — heated ex-sex, without a trace of red. As we lapsed into the afterglow, I withdrew and blood flew off me in an arch and onto the freshly painted wall of her “single again” abode. Considering how astonishing the sex was, it didn’t surprise me that there’d be some visceral signature, besides flushed skin, of what had happened. It seemed that the ceiling could have collapsed. Before catching herself, the rest descended and stained the mattress that we now share with our new baby boy. With the old blood out, our cycle had begun again.” — Fred Sasaki, 28

“When I ride the cotton pony, I don't get off.” — Violet Blue, journalist and sex educator extraordinaire

“I admit that, in my younger years, I was a bit freaked out about [having sex] while on the rag. I used to be all grossed out when the girl I was with would be way more turned on when she was on her period, but it took me a while of being a typical dipshit guy to realize that, wait, sex is better when your girlfriend is really, really turned on. So you get to make your partner really happy and have awesome sex. If a little bit of blood is more important to you than both those things, then I'm pretty sure that you officially suck.” — Ben, 27

“Fuck yeah, I fuck on my period. At the first sign of impending flow, I grab the nearest organ and say, "Get in me, brother." That usually gets the old red river flowing. Cramps and constipation...outta my life. Organ, you can stick around for a coupla more days, I'm going to need you. I need you because boning has become a blood sport for a little while and what you got reigns supreme over that shit they're trying to sell me over at Walgreens.” — Kat Kill, 29